For most people, life wouldn't be complete without
having a family. And certainly, raising children can be one
of the most rewarding experiences a couple can share. However,
once kids come- two becomes three and the couple relationship
changes forever. Many of those changes will be positive, but
having children can also be stressful and research shows that
once kids arrive, relationship satisfaction drops!
Here's what
research has told us about the transition to parenthood:
- During the
year after your first child is born, up to 67% of couples
will experience a sharp decline in marital happiness.
And this decline often continues for several years.
- Marital
conflict increases dramatically
- How you
parent together affects both your child's well-being
and your relationship satisfaction
That's not great news for most of us.
But the better news is that research has shown that couples
who take part in relationship education programs experience
less disruption in their marital satisfaction, are better
co-parents, and have more well adjusted kids. In other words,
you can protect your love with a little time and
effort!
This isn't just important to keep you
and your spouse satisfied- but it's absolutely
critical to the development of your children!
Research
shows that a happy, healthy marital relationship is essential
for your child's well being. In fact- a relaxed, loving, and
supportive relationship between husband and wife is strongly
related to everything you care about for your child's success.
Including:
Emotional health
and emotional intelligence
Physical health and development
Social skills and peer relationships
Self esteem
Academic achievement
Every parent wants
a well-adjusted, happy, healthy child who gets along well
with other kids and adults, feels great about himself, knows
how to solve problems, copes well with the ups and downs of
life, excels at the hobbies and sports that interest them,
and is successful in school.
But
fewer parents realize that the MOST IMPORTANT KEY to your
child's success, now and in the future, is YOUR MARITAL HAPPINESS.
In our
kid-centric culture, many parents accidentally fall into the
habit of catering almost exclusively to the needs of their
children, while letting their own romantic connection wilt
from lack of attention. All the nurturance goes to the children-
not the marriage. Parents do this because they think that
this is what's best for their children.
But
as we can see from the above information- by NOT focusing
on keeping your marital relationship strong, you actually
put your children at RISK for all sorts of issues!!
That's
why the best gift you can give your children is a happy marriage!
Yes!
We want to be Partners and Parents!
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Expectant and
New Parents
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