He’s Just Not That Into
You
by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
Listen up all you savvy singles. Are you looking
for a sure fire way to minimize what seems like the inevitable
pain, strain, and drain of dating? Then run, don’t walk,
to your nearest bookstore and grab a copy of He’s Just
Not That Into You. Now men, don’t be fooled by the title.
Although the book’s target audience is women, the advice
works well for men too, especially if you don’t mind
translating women-speak into man-speak. Plunk this tiny tome
down on your night stand, make it mandatory nightly reading
after Jay Leno, and follow it like a religion. Don’t
worry, it’s a lot easier to read than your average biblical
text (you’ll probably get through it in a couple of
sittings). And thanks to the comedic flair of the authors,
it’s a lot of fun. You’ll find yourself laughing
out loud on more than one occasion. If not, consider yourself
one of the lucky few who doesn’t recognize themselves
in these humorous descriptions of dating don’ts. And
for those of you who hate pouring over yards of text, you’ll
appreciate that each short chapter is organized to ensure
that you don’t miss the major dating point. As a special
bonus, your self esteem should receive a little boost, as
the authors routinely reinforce that you deserve to be treated
with the utmost care and respect.
The major premise of this book is that people spend
a lot of needless time and tears on relationships that are
going nowhere. According to the authors, the red flags of
doom are everywhere- if only we open our eyes wide enough
to see them and do something about it. Namely, move on already.
We’ve all been there. We’ve just met someone we
really like and they seem to like us back. We’ve gazed
at each other over steaming lattes, sweated together hiking
up the nearest fourteener, and kissed giddily under a starry
sky. But before long, we find ourselves making excuses for
their less than stellar behavior. We tell ourselves, “He
must be really busy at work this week. That is why he hasn’t
called.” Or, “She is such a sweet person, she
must be caring for her ill grandmother. That’s why I
haven’t seen her in three weeks.” Or, “Surely,
he must be pinned under a 2-ton boulder. Otherwise I just
know he would have returned my email.”
Deep down, we all know that when we utter something
similar to these phrases, it is time to rethink where our
relationship is headed. However, when the glow of a new romantic
prospect starts to wane, it can be really hard to be honest
with ourselves. The heady feeling of new love can be so powerful
and so addictive, that we often turn a blind eye to important
warning signs. We can find ourselves putting up with all sorts
of bad behavior that we don’t deserve, hoping that the
sparks will return so that this time the story can have a
happy ending. But this book, in chapter after witty chapter,
will remind you of all the tell-tale signals that your new
potential partner is not the perfect one for you. And the
thoughtful authors will repeatedly prompt you to recognize
that you should never settle for less when you deserve better.
How easy it is to forget that! But, the sooner you are able
to recognize this fact, accept it, and move on, the sooner
you will be available to find the partner who is right for
you. After all, that’s the whole point of dating, right?
To find the ideal partner for you, while keeping the broken
hearts and unnecessary effort, both yours and theirs, to a
minimum. Any book that can help you achieve this goal is a
must-read. Follow this book’s advice, as hard as it
can be at times, and you’ll stay on the path to finding
Mr. or Ms. Right.
Quick Summary: This book is concise, witty, and clever,
but most important of all, provides sound dating advice.
Savvy Singles Grade: 
“Miss this at your own risk”
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